Regina King encourages black women to date outside their race. This is a blast from the past (2010) but just as relevant as if spoken this afternoon. Black women are the last to date out for a number of reasons. One is a misplace loyalty to black men. One’s preference is one’s preference. But if a single woman wants marriage and family, it is only logical that she opens up her dating pools to include all races of men thereby increasing her chances of finding a good friend, husband and father — of course after extreme vetting him to determine his worthiness. After all we are talking about a life partner and possible father to your future children. Although she faced some backlash for her opinion, what Regina Kings says here is on point.
Scandinavia – Find Your Love In The Faroe Islands is quite the challenge these days. Are you up for a visit to the Faroe Islands? I may be. . I was interviewed by Anna Poulsen of KVF, Faroese media two weeks ago. I should have the link but the interview is in Faroese so I doubt most would understand anyway. I am trying for a project later this year in Iceland and the Faroe Islands. I would like to take a few ladies who have expressed interest in finding love in the Faroes for a visit to see what we can see (and who we can see)
When I happened upon this article about people leaving over pet peeves in the UK Daily Mail, all I could do was chuckle. Some of the peeves are hilarious. Now I have my pet peeves, but to actually leave my husband because of them? Or a man to leave his wife or girlfriend because of that? Finding a life mate is hard enough as it is. We really must mature to the point of appreciating those qualities that attracted us to our mates in the first place. I hate to clean beard shavings out of the sink and my head explodes when I see a kitchen cabinet door left open or a lid not screwed on a jar or bottle tightly. Add to this that the molecular structure of anything changes once my husband touches it — forever changed and sometimes broken beyond repair. But at the end of the day I have a husband who loves and adores me. I couldn’t even conceive of leaving him for such an infantile reason.
Swirl Date and Marry has noticed that more black women are taking the chance at online dating. Some give up, some hang in there and actually find their future husbands. You can meet a mate almost anywhere like at the supermarket, library or bookstore, coffee shop, at a bar, or online. Although online dating is just one of many ways to meet other singles, it is one of the easiest ways to get yourself out there. There is still a stigma associated with online dating but that is fading fast due to the success of many couples who met online. Most eventually marry and many even have families and are happy.
According to Bloomberg, Mark Zuckerberg just became the sixth-richest person on Earth. Priscilla did not do half bad. As a matter of fact she did great in choosing a great husband and provider to her, Max and any more children they have.
Monyetta Can Move On Now That Ne-Yo And Crystal Renay Are Married! I don’t follow gossip sites much but once in a while, something will get my attention by surfing the Internet. I came across this post on Media Take Out about singer Ne-Yo. They report that he and Crystal Renay had a shot-gun wedding over the weekend. Seems Crystal, the new wife is pregnant. We are a pro-marriage blogzine and will always champion marriage as the goal of loving, marriage-minded men and women who are ready to take their love to the final level. But, having seen the episode of Atlanta Exes where the mother of Ne-Yo’s children; Monyetta Shaw is baring her soul to Christina in tears. She was distraught about having had her tubes burned at Ne-Yo’s request (demand if you ask me).
Neneh Ada Yang, China’s Black First Lady Is living well. She is an internationally known celebrity. The world has seen snippets of her spectacular intercultural wedding in China to Yan Yang, a renown Chinese landscape artist. From whirlwind romance to a spectacular star status wedding and beautiful baby, Ada is living a dream life. On faith, Ada chose to move thousands of worlds away from her African birthplace of Sierra Leone. Little did she know that she would some day be hosting diplomats, other distinguished guests and honored friends in her new home.
When I first heard about this tragic, tragic story, the first thing that came to mind was how the backlash of anti black woman / white male marriage and relationships would ensue. But I had to quickly analyze the case with the information I gathered from media. Michael “Augustine” Bournes for reasons still unknown to authorities put a bullet in the head of his wife Arie Arlynn Lee and their 3 children, Arie Lee Bournes, 1; Woodrow Lee Bournes, 4; and Augustine Lee Bournes, 5. Michael “Augustine” Bournes.
As a life coach who coaches women on high standards in looking for quality men I was particularly intrigued to read this post about Tia Mowry and her husband Cory Hardrict. Some women fall for anything and accept a man with no job, car, prospects nor potential for anything that remotely resembles being a good husband, father and provider. I advise clients of which to steer clear of these types and run the other way. They are disasters waiting to happen. I coach women on how to carefully vet men and eventually they will know how to spot keepers. In addition I recommend my clients read The Rules.
Want to meet Scandinavian Men? Black Women Scandinavian Marriage is a traditional, interracial dating site for singles who want to date and marry nationally or internationally. So once you join, you put in your criteria and see who comes up. It has a general data base so criteria is important.
I know that I installed the word “VET” into my vocabulary as I found myself coaching more and more women on finding suitable mates. What if someone does all the right things, asks all the right questions and still ends up with a shyster? Well, Joy Richardson, a dear friend thought she married the man of her dreams and in just two weeks it started unraveling. I would venture to say that it started before that. We are blessed with a God given instinct and anything and I do mean ANYTHING that gives us reason to pause, or question a potential mate is sometimes the only sign or red flag you will get.
by Arielle Loren for CLUTCH Magazine
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I can count on one hand how many non-black men I’ve dated inside the United States. But now that I’m living abroad, I might need your fingers, Clutchettes. After studying abroad in Europe, and now, living in Brasil, I’ve had the opportunity to explore my options as a single woman.
“I am originally from Los Angeles California but moved to Stockholm Sweden 5 years ago after meeting and falling in love with my Swedish husband while on a cruise vacation in the Caribbean. (That sounds crazy once you write it down). The moment we met, we knew we would be together forever . We celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary in November and we have 3 little girls aged 2.5 years and 14 months old twins.”
Cherilyn and Terry Smith
Cherilyn Weekes Smith is very special — as she has been a powerful voice in Black Women Empowerment. Cherilyn, as she is known to followers of Black Women Deserve Better™ her blog, she promotes healthy, well living lifestyles for Black women. As well, she encourages marriage for Black women to high quality men regardless of race. Because Cherilyn practices what she preaches, it is not at all surprising that she took her own advice, and that of similarly minded bloggers.