When I first introduced you all to Lissette Gonzalez five years ago, her interview got the most responses ever. People were drawn to Lissette’s (Lisy or Lady Elle) outgoing, loving and crazy personality and the heart binding super love she and her husband share with each other.
Anta Majigeen Ndiaye or Anna Madgigine Jai Kingsley was not always the free Senegalese woman who eventually became a plantation and slave owner. At 18 years old, her owner Zephaniah Kingsley, one of the most powerful men in Florida freed the 18 year-old woman mother of his 3 children and married her. As Florida was under Spanish colonial rule where manumission laws were more liberal than American. Her husband saw slavery as a temporary condition related to economics more than race. Anna learned to operate the plantations as effective as Zephaniah. As a free woman, she petitioned the Spanish government and was granted land across from her husband’s plantations in what is now Jacksonville, Florida.
Mahala Lynch Davis
Mahala Lynch Davis, married her former slave owner Isaac P. Davis in 1857. On the right is their daughter Martha Davis Wilson (b. 1848) holding her baby Julia Wilson (Car). Davis freed Mahala and then married her moving from his former Virginia plantation to Chilicothe, southern Ohio.
Albert and Lucy Parsons
Albert (1858-1887) and Lucy Parsons (1853-1942 were from Texas where Lucy Eldine Gonzalez Parsons was born into slavery. She met Albert and they married. They moved to Chicago due to threats from the KKK during Reconstruction. Albert was a former Confederate soldier who later fought on behalf of former slaves’ rights. Albert & Lucy were extreme radical anarchists.
Not only was Centralia, Illinois native Marcella (Marcy) Ng the first black woman military pilot (Army) in 1979; but she and husband Dennis were also Blasian trailblazers. Mrs. Ng shared with me that she found all the swirling and blasian terms interesting because she and her husband have been together 33 plus years.
This post caused a mini firestorm on my FB page. I revisted a case from 1996. Remember the black girl named Keshia Thomas from Ann Arbor, MI who with her own body protected a KKK rally supporter from being beaten? Maybe she had just watched an episode of “The Hulk” and figured her body could transform into a gamma radiatied being able to withstand, kicks, punches, sticks and stones from enraged protesters. Whatever Thomas’ motivation, her brave act of humanity touched millions and softened the Klan organizer’s heart and he thanked her. Ironic.
George Stevens whose mother was Spanish, was born in 1839, Lorad County, Mexico, and came to Utah in 1860. In 1872 he married Lucinda Vilate Flake, born 2 December 1854, Union, Utah, daughter of Green and Martha Crosby Flake, George was freighting through S.L.C. when he met Lucinda at a square dance gathering. Lucinda was known as Cinda. Sixteen years later, such a union between the two races would be against Utah law. Read the fascinating history of “The Prohibition of Interracial Marriage in Utah, 1888-1963” in the spring 2008 issue of Utah Historical Quarterly.
This is the second and third stories of former slaves who moved to and married interracially in Montana. Mattie Bell Castner is the called “The Mother of Belt, Montana.” My family and I had the opportunity to drive through the area in 2011. It felt good to be close enough to touch history, but most of us could experience the same sentiments by just going outside or a few miles away as the contributions of our ancestors surround us, but I digress.
I remember where I was one week before Christmas in 2003. I was glued to the television along with most of America listening to the revelation of one Essie Mae Washington-Williams. She eloquently told America that the rumors were true and that she was indeed the daughter of Strom Thurmond. Her children had convinced her that she should come forward since Strom Thurmond had died. Convicted in her heart that her descendants should know all of their heritage, there was no reason to further keep the secret that several in certain circles knew anyway. This past Sunday, Essie Mae Washington-Williams died of natural causes at her home in South Carolina.
Dr. Misee Harris is a woman on a mission to become America’s first Bachelorette. I received a delightful email from Dr. Harris informing me that she would be the next Bachelorette — she hopes. Although I don’t particularly care for the Bachelor/Bachelorette show, I will cheer Dr. Harris on and hope that she indeed does become America’s first black Bachelorette. I think America is past ready to have a black bachelorette. We are after all in 2013.
Dorothy Counts on the first day at Harding High Sept. 4, 1957 Charlotte, North Carolina
I am always referencing the Little Rock Nine or one of their members. But I want to remember and honor a brave woman who was a courageous teenager. Dorothy Counts was one of 4 black students selected to integrate all white schools in Charlotte, North Carolina. On September 4, 1957, Dot as the then 15 year-old was known to her friends and family thought it would just another school. She had no idea of the hostile crowds that awaited her. She was mocked, harassed, bullied and spat upon, in other words terrorized as those students did not want her there.
Domestic Violence Kills – Recognize the Signs of an Abuser!
Listen up ladies. Lots of you are seeking love (or know someone who is) and I say love is where you find it. On the journey to finding true love, we may sometimes find ourselves with men (and boys for you younger/teen readers) who are blatant abusers. I say blatant because an abuser will show you who he really is from the very start. It is up to YOU to recognize the signs and take action.
Almost all of us know the story of Lot and Sodom and Gomorrah from the Bible. We know what happened to Lot’s wife when she decided to remain in a world that meant her certain death. Oh, she was on board with leaving, but her heart was not in it. So she turned to look back and became a pillar of salt. She doomed any chance she had at escape and a possible life of happiness outside of her deadly community.
Yes, he’s mine!
Many of us with biracial children have or will experience an “Is that your baby?” moment. Sometimes it can be funny in the comical or ironic sense and sometimes it can be outright rude. One evening I went to the grocery store, got my shopping done and headed out to my car with a cart full of goodies to be consumed over the next couple of weeks.
Will you meet a quality guy this weekend????? See what happens.
-Just hoping to meet a guy with potential this weekend -Have a date to go out with a guy this weekend -Are waiting for a guy to call you this weekend?
Brandy and Michael Voels
Excerpted from “Being 40 Plus” In His Hands
When I was reached out to and asked to discuss my thoughts, feelings or views on my marriage I had a range of emotions. I am a black woman married to a white man. That is what the world sees at any rate. What I feel is a woman married to a man raising a family like any other couple black, white or otherwise. So, to give others perspective I chose to answer the question “what is it like to be in a biracial relationship?”
Luc & Marie
How to Plan a Wedding for a Bride and Groom with 400 Children
Excerpted From The Huffington Post by Marie Da Silva
Not everyone who gets married spends her time dreaming of just the right dress or where her honeymoon will be. My fiancé, Luc Deschamps and I, will be right here in Malawi, Africa, surrounded by family and friends who will come from around the world to celebrate with us when we get married. And most importantly, we will be with our 400 beautiful children from our school, “The Jacaranda School,” for children living with and orphaned by AIDS.