Regina King encourages black women to date outside their race. This is a blast from the past (2010) but just as relevant as if spoken this afternoon. Black women are the last to date out for a number of reasons. One is a misplace loyalty to black men. One’s preference is one’s preference. But if a single woman wants marriage and family, it is only logical that she opens up her dating pools to include all races of men thereby increasing her chances of finding a good friend, husband and father — of course after extreme vetting him to determine his worthiness. After all we are talking about a life partner and possible father to your future children. Although she faced some backlash for her opinion, what Regina Kings says here is on point.
Last year, I made one of the most difficult decisions of my life. I decided to get married—again. I can understand if people roll their eyes at this, but if you’ve never been divorced, then you may not ever be able to understand. My divorce wasn’t nasty or drawn out in the traditional sense, but I was left quite broken, scarred, and afraid.