Lissette Gonzalez, Florida – True Color Blind Love!
What is your husband’s ethnicity?
Do you recall how you first informed your friends and family of your interracial relationship and subsequent marriage?
Yes, they told me to stay away from him, but not truly for the interracial aspect. It was because Ali was known as a ladies’ man. To me, he was the perfect gentleman. That’s what got me then and that’s what gets me now!
What about your husband’s family —- did you or he face any criticism from them?
Well…. (Pause) Yes, but they changed their outlook very quickly. In fact, it was almost immediate. They realized that they were being ignorant.
How was it handled?
Have you ever felt pressure or experienced a significant difference between your non interracial and interracial relationships?
No pressure but yes there was a societal difference. I didn’t get as many stares as when I was with my black boyfriends. I guess that would be the only difference.
Does race figure into child rearing for you?
When and if your children first experience racism, what do you think your advice will be to them?
Since my children, especially my daughter were very white when born. She thought she was white. I heard her say it when she was four years-old. It was at that moment I explained to my daughter her ethnic (Afro-Latino) heritage and she understood perfectly. I told my daughter that she was biracial. She’s very proud. To my son, race has not yet become an issue but when it does, he will be prepared.
Where do you live?
Sunny Isles Beach, Florida
Do you think sunny Isles Beach in general is a good place for interracial couples and families?
I have not had any bad experiences here. Miami is a melting pot of cultures and if anything, it is one of the best places for an interracial family to live.
What do you do for fun?
We are a very vibrant couple that has lots of fun. I sing Karaoke while my husband sits with a drink in his hand and admires my show. We enjoy hanging out with friends for dinner and cocktails. We have a theme party at least once a month. Cinco de Mayo is coming up (smiling). We adore spending family day [Sundays] together. We and the children enjoy the pool and have lots of fun.
On a romantic note, Ali and I love relaxing at home, cuddling cosy, while peering out from our “beach view” every night. We admire the moonlit reflections on my feet as we dance and fly around the world as the city sleeps…. Awwww (smiling) I love being home.
Do you have any suggestions for black women just entering interracial relationships?