China’s Black First Lady Helps Women In Sierra Leone. The world knows Neneh Ada Koroma as China’s Black First Lady. We also know her as mother, artist, diplomat, philanthropist, business mogul, author, musician, singer, actress, daughter, sister and friend. Well China’s Black First Lady is on a mission.
My husband (Mark) and I have been married for 23 years. We have seven children—all biological—four boys and three girls. Whenever people see us altogether, their responses are often:
Are they all yours?
Do you know what causes that?
More often, though, people give us admiring smiles and remark on how blessed we are to have a large family.
Recalling ‘The Bully’ from my childhood. When I was a kid, there were no support groups for bullying. The parent mantra for bullying was, “Tomorrow, there will be someone else. You’ll see.” For me, there was no tomorrow for someone else. It was only me…day after day after day. I would never have dreamed how much horror one person can dole out to another.
Regina King encourages black women to date outside their race. This is a blast from the past (2010) but just as relevant as if spoken this afternoon. Black women are the last to date out for a number of reasons. One is a misplace loyalty to black men. One’s preference is one’s preference. But if a single woman wants marriage and family, it is only logical that she opens up her dating pools to include all races of men thereby increasing her chances of finding a good friend, husband and father — of course after extreme vetting him to determine his worthiness. After all we are talking about a life partner and possible father to your future children. Although she faced some backlash for her opinion, what Regina Kings says here is on point.
Scandinavia – Find Your Love In The Faroe Islands is quite the challenge these days. Are you up for a visit to the Faroe Islands? I may be. . I was interviewed by Anna Poulsen of KVF, Faroese media two weeks ago. I should have the link but the interview is in Faroese so I doubt most would understand anyway. I am trying for a project later this year in Iceland and the Faroe Islands. I would like to take a few ladies who have expressed interest in finding love in the Faroes for a visit to see what we can see (and who we can see)
Technically, Indians are Asian too. So this Beautiful Asian – Indian wedding of Mr. Teh and Miss Anbalagi and these unions are nothing new. In fact they are quite common all over the globe. I met one such couple at my children’s pediatrician’s office. The man was from India and his wife was Chinese. We had newborns and enjoyed watching the children grow into toddlers and preschoolers. I loved looking at these fabulous photos of JyTeh and Anbalagi.
When I happened upon this article about people leaving over pet peeves in the UK Daily Mail, all I could do was chuckle. Some of the peeves are hilarious. Now I have my pet peeves, but to actually leave my husband because of them? Or a man to leave his wife or girlfriend because of that? Finding a life mate is hard enough as it is. We really must mature to the point of appreciating those qualities that attracted us to our mates in the first place. I hate to clean beard shavings out of the sink and my head explodes when I see a kitchen cabinet door left open or a lid not screwed on a jar or bottle tightly. Add to this that the molecular structure of anything changes once my husband touches it — forever changed and sometimes broken beyond repair. But at the end of the day I have a husband who loves and adores me. I couldn’t even conceive of leaving him for such an infantile reason.
As I am always researching matters pertaining interracial families, I came across a post on The Salt Collective written by Liz Lin entitled. How Do You Raise A Multiracial Child?. As woman of Chinese descent, Lin’s experience differs from many of ours. But as a mother, it is not so different. We all want the best for our children. We want them to work hard, thrive and be successful.
How to Land (And Keep) A Man
When it comes to stereotypes, women were always made to play the role of the damsel in distress, and were always told to wait for the right man to come and sweep her off her feet. Today, however, things are slowly changing and it has become accessible to proactively search for someone. Here are some things you can try to finally meet and land that man, without acting like a psycho-stalker.
Are You on Welfare? Don’t be Ashamed to Admit it. Legal mediation consultant and practitioner Joan Amanfoh, host of The Awareness Show shares a recent, shocking experience. A single mother of two came to my office yesterday crying that her case manager cut off her benefits. Which means the monthly monetary assistance the government was giving to her to pay rent and medication had been stopped. I was not surprised because of the recent increase in these kind of cases.
Another precious baby is gone thanks to an abusive, pedophile father named Robert Davidson and negligent mother Lorena Thompson. Ten week old baby Aleah Thompson suffered so much during her little time on this Earth. A broken collar-bone and 34 rib fractures in various stages of healing? Really??? Poor baby. I am sick of reading or seeing these cases in the news. Some women would rather keep a man in their lives than protect their child or children. At 22 years old, maybe Lorena Thompson was a bit immature but I have seen little girls who would go from zero to sixty if anyone dare tried to touch or hurt their baby dolls. What do they know that this mother does not? Read the heart breaking story.
We are so pleased to hear that IMF friend Millie H.met her husband online. They had actually met before, lost contact and reconnected. Once they realized they had met before, they were dating and started a relationship. Over about a year and a half, Millie and her hubby became a couple, engaged and the rest is history as they say. Millie is a Jamaican native and where else could she marry the love of her life but on the tropical island paradise?
Stella and Tim Parker – Colorado: A Mother-in-Law’s Hunch
When Stella Parker ventured west to Denver, Colorado from her home in Indiana, all she had was a dream and determination to be successful. Working hard at her job and completing her education, Stella hoped she would find a nice man and settle down. It took some time, but Stella would meet her future husband Tim through the most unlikely of situations —- her mother-in-law.
Enough! Prince Harry Says Leave New Love Meghan Markle Alone! I am absolutely thrilled to see that Prince Harry has found love across the pond with gorgeous American actress Meghan Markle. Prince Harry is a stand up guy it seems as he has acknowledged their relationship and spoken out against the racist and sexist hate against his new love. Everyone does have a right to their opinions, but at the end of the day the only opinions that matter belong to the two love birds.
Who knew that discussions and literature about zombies could spark a romance? Well that is what happened in the case of Allison and Amir, an absolutely lovely couple . I found their story on MunaLuchi Bride.
Relationship quirks black women married to white men will understand on its own may give one reason to reflect. Marriage is already a tough game, and interracial relationships have their own share of drama making it even trickier to figure out. In this modern-day and age, color preference in relationships should not be an issue anymore. Unfortunately, that is not the case. There are still a few struggles that black women married to white men face, and here are some of them:
I was browsing through blog posts and articles recently and I came across a question that said, “Help! My daughter is marrying a black man! What should I do?” Reading and re-reading the question out loud in my head, it surprises me how there are still these bigoted stereotypes like that in this day and age. It seemed like a really big crisis for that woman, almost comparable to asking a question such as “my daughter is marrying a drug addict, what should I do?”