My name is Kristi Thompson, I started dating my husband Terrell on October 22, 2004 — our senior year of high school.  But I had a crush on him since the 6th grade.  I knew it would be a problem with my parents but I did not think it would be as big of a problem as it turned out to be.

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Growing up we were taught to treat everyone the same but when they found out that Terrell was Black my parents made me choose between them or Terrell. I was hurt because out of all my brothers and sisters I was the only one to finish high school and had something going for myself. I had to lie about my senior prom and tell my parents I was going by myself so I did not get to enjoy that experience with them. I moved in with my brother and his girlfriend for a while yet I had to sneak around with Terrell because I was still afraid to tell the rest of my family about him.  And my parents still did not really know how serious we were.

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I would go months without seeing Terrell all because I did not want to hurt my father but at the same time I was hurting Terrell.  Eventually, it caused problems between us. It upset me because Terrell’s family accepted me from day one and the fact that I was white did not matter to them.  They treated me like family.  My family never gave Terrell a chance or even wanted to get to know him. I ended up moving with my sister and her family and I was able to go see Terrell anytime I wanted.  But my family had yet to meet him except for my younger sister and my niece.  We all went to school together so they had always known about him.

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On Terrell’s 21st birthday we found out that I was pregnant with our first son Jayden. I was scared because I didn’t know how my parents would react. I didn’t tell them I was pregnant until I was 5 months along. I really couldn’t tell you how they felt because at that point I really didn’t care anymore. The first time Terrell met my mother was when we had the ultrasound to determine the sex of the baby.  Terrell’s mother was there too.  I was really nervous but it was not as bad as I thought it was going to be — everyone got along. Terrell didn’t meet the rest of my family until I had Jayden and they came to the hospital,  My mom was in the delivery room with me along with Terrell.  Ironically, they have both been there with for the birth of all my children.

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We got married March 28 2009.  Our second son Jordan was born the following December on the same and shares a birthday with my mother in law.  Our daughter Brooklyn came along in October of 2012 and I am now pregnant with our 4th child.  We don’t yet know the sex of this baby.

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Today Terrell is not really close to my family, but we have family gatherings and there is mutual respect.   We do all get along. If I had to do it all again, I would because Terrell is the love of my life.  He is an excellent husband, father and provider.  I love him with all my heart and soul.