Words hurt: How to deal with negativity. Unless you have somehow mastered the art of simply not feeling then odds are if you are in an interracial relationship that you’ve been called names or made to feel sad and hurt. We’re only human and most of our communicating is done through talking. It’s only natural to be affected by what other’s say to and about you. However it’s important to remember that their opinion is just that; theirs. We don’t control what other people say or think. We can however control the way we react.