I am a worldly wise and clever woman with a great sense of humor. I have a Master’s Degree in English – specializing in American Literature. I’ve been a college instructor and a PR professional in my career. Writing has been one of my joys in life and I am lucky to be finally getting recognition for my work. I am hoping to sell a novel or two very soon. I am loyal and down to earth and I’m a bit on the devilish side. I’m soft hearted and easy to please. I love helping other people achieve greatness in their lives and I know my purpose in life is to be of service to others. I love to laugh and I love a man who can make me laugh. I am mad about music especially classic rock and old school R&B and I love live music.
I am a very loving, caring, loyal, faithful, considerate & understanding woman with a compassionate heart. I’ve always been a person that follows my own heart because I truly believe that every individual has their own purpose in life. I am a very well rounded, educated, smart, & beautiful woman with many ambitions as well as aspirations in life. I love reading & learning new things. Anything from the mythology of the Greek god Dionysus down to the simple Holistic teachings of the Dalai Lama. I also enjoy reading and writing poetry. Its been a hobby of mine since I was a little girl. I consider myself to be a very spiritual & loving person that understands, respect, & constantly continues to be accepting of my fellow man.
A telling article of how photographs of Richard and Mildred loving were banned in the 16 states that prohibited interracial marriage. Just 45 years ago, 16 states deemed marriages between two people of different races illegal. But in 1967, the U.S. Supreme Court considered the case of Richard Perry Loving, who was white, and his wife, Mildred Loving, of African American and Native American descent. The case changed history – and was captured on film by LIFE photographer Grey Villet, whose black-and-white photographs are now set to go on display at the International Center of Photography. See the pictures and continue reading story.
Due to the resurgence of interest in the Lovings because of this article, this video is very fitting.
Joy Richardson is a woman on a mission. Rollercoaster does not come close to describing what Joy’s life has been up until now. Past relationships have left her empty and perplexed and even in danger as one was profiled on the TVOne’s Deceived and Discovery Channel show “Who The Bleep Did I Marry?“. The author and single mother of two is taking her life back and moving forward with the speed of a torpedo.
Meet Noella Coursaris Masters. Her mother is Congolese-Zambian and her father was Cypriot (from Cyprus). Born in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, this woman is elegance, grace and class personified. Then she wraps it up nicely into down home spirit of good old fashion niceness and girl next door. I can’t say too many wonderful things about her work as a wife, mother, model and philanthropist. Hubby James Masters must have been smitten by her drive and passion as well as obvious beauty.
“I am originally from Los Angeles California but moved to Stockholm Sweden 5 years ago after meeting and falling in love with my Swedish husband while on a cruise vacation in the Caribbean. (That sounds crazy once you write it down). The moment we met, we knew we would be together forever . We celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary in November and we have 3 little girls aged 2.5 years and 14 months old twins.”
Excerpted from blogzine post Media Watch: Korean Dramas – How the Media Creates or Changes Perceptions by Betty Chambers
Update: Korean Men Marriage Rates I was asked to provide some data, so I dug up some stats. If they seem funky to anyone, please put up the correct numbers. Throughout the world, more males than females are born. This imbalance is natural. However, in Asian countries it is exasperated by female reduction from sex selection in the womb (abortion), export adoption of girls, and other extreme methods. The result is a population of males outnumbering females. Based on the gender imbalance in Korea, social changes, population movement to urban areas, there are more men than women available and interested in marriage.
Reality of Race: Interracial Marriage Part I
By: Octavia Mitchell WCBD
February 11, 2010
More than forty-years ago, interracial marriages were illegal in most states in the U.S. Now almost anywhere you go these days, you will see mixed race couples. An increasing number of people, specifically African American women are choosing to date and marry outside of their race. According to a U.S. Census Bureau report in 2000, 95-thousand black women were married to white
men. In 2005, that number increased to 134-thousand.
Goose Creek couple, 44-year-old William Kuhn, a white man, and 45-year-old Cecilye Kuhn, a black woman, met and fell in love back in 1986. Cecilye Kuhn says, “I met him at a cook-out from one of his commands. A month and half later, we actually started talking. The first impression wasn’t the greatest impression, but after that, he talked and he talked to me in the middle of another cook-out for about an hour. We got along, and we became good friends, and it kind of grew from there. We like dated for 6 months, and got engaged for a year, then got married.” The couple just celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary. William Kuhn says, “For us it’s been good.” Cecilye says, “You’ll find people who even to this day will look at you weird. You get all these questions on how does his parents feel about you, and how does your parents feel about him, and this that and the other. Like I said, you get some outside people that may say something. I got that early on when we first were together.” William, now a retired Navy man, dated outside of his race before, but their relationship was the first for Cecilye. She says, “You make out a list of what you want, and he met that list. I would have married him if he was black. I would have married him if he was Puerto Rican, if he was italian. We just had that connection. It didn’t really matter.”
Continue reading Part I
Reality of Race: Interracial Marriage Part II
Another couple, Rhame and Monica Nelson have been married 15 years. They have a two year old son Camden, and have another on the way. The couple says this is the first and only interracial relationship for both. Rhame Nelson says, “With me, it’s a personality thing. We were friends before we started a relationship, and we stayed friends for years and years. We got advice
otherwise when were dating not to do that, and you would bring hardship on yourself, and 15 years ago I could see where that would be an issue. I think cultures changed a lot, especially towards kids since then.”
The couple says there is still the occasional glance from strangers. Rhame says, “You can still go in some places, and you’ll see looks.” Monica says, “The biggest thing is learning to deal with somebody else’s personality, likes or dislikes, the whole male female thing, as far as the thing that we had to figure out how to work with each other on.” They get along well with both families, Rhame says, “My family adores her.” Monica says, “My dad wasn’t keen on it. That’s neither here or there.” Rhame says, “I never actually met him, so it hadn’t been any issue at all.” Monica says, “My parents are divorced. My mom loves him, my sisters love him.” For the Nelsons, it’s not about black or white, it’s all about pink for the family, who is expecting a new buddle of joy. Monica laughs as says, “We’re having a little girl.”
Continue reading Part II
Although interracial relationships and related issues receive much attention today, they’ve taken place in America since colonial times. In fact, America’s first “mulatto” child was born in 1620. When slavery of blacks became institutionalized in the U.S., however, anti-miscegenation laws surfaced which barred such unions, thereby stigmatizing them.
The presence of people of African descent in Eastern Europe has been steadily increasing since the fall of the Berlin Wall. The case is not different in the Czech Republic, explains Kofi Nkrumah, founder of Humanitas Afrika, an organisation based in the country’s capital. The Ghanaian-born community activist writes on how his association is helping bring people of African descent resident in the city and the local Czech population together through diverse activities, which also serve to present a realistic image of Africa in the society.
Before April 1945 when the first Black soldier entered the country with General Patton’s Third Army, most Czechoslovaks had never even met a Black person, said a Czech journalist Jarka Halkova.
The African or Black presence throughout the Communist era was indeed very limited to a few diplomats and students on scholarships. It was obligatory for such students to return to their countries of origin upon completion of their studies. It was only those who graduated at the dawn of or after the collapse of the Berlin Wall that had the opportunity of seeking their pasture right there.
Some, if not many, chose to stay and, today, they are at the core of the African community in Prague in particular and in the Czech Republic in general. Added to this category of Africans is a new wave of immigrants from both the continent and the Diaspora, who have been trickling in after the iron curtain finally came tumbling down.
There is no doubt therefore that the Black presence in the streets of Prague and other major cities in the Czech Republic is gradually becoming commonplace. There are even Africans who have settled down to family lives with local Czech spouses. Children from these relationships are equally becoming fairly visible, and it might not be too long before some ingenious ethnologist, journalist or activist starts talking about Black-Czechs, Afro-Czechs or African-Czechs.
For now though, Prague is still far away from being a very cosmopolitan city in the sense of New York, London, Amsterdam, Paris, Berlin, Vienna or Johannesburg. The African minority in the Czech Republic is not even included in official statistics. Instead it is placed in the so-called minorities column.
Indeed before the Velvet Revolution of 1989 and even throughout the 1990s, seeing a Black person did not simply attract casual, furtive glances, but looks of open curiosity, as Shawn Shelton observed in the December 2001 Edition of Transitions Abroad magazine. A Black person was spectacular, and skin colour was a factor in most interactions with the native population. Even today, while most Czechs don’t even bat an eyelid when they see Vietnamese owners of grocery shops, they will still often look a few seconds longer at a Black African.
It is not just about Africans and Black people. There is an element that borders on continental Africa itself. Very little is known about Africa, especially Africa South of the Sahara. The people and their culture still remain outlandish, if not mysterious, to the local Czech. Thanks to the globalisation of the skewed Western media in particular, starving children, wild child soldiers, emaciated HIV patients or even forgotten dictators like Mobutu and Amin are the images most people readily recall in association with Africa. Alternative information or images on anything positive about Africa and Africans has been virtually lacking. Until Humanitas Afrika was founded, that is.
Thus the very motivation behind the establishment of Humanitas Afrika was to help shed light on Africa, the people, their culture, and all those positive developments taking place within the continent and in the Diaspora that do not otherwise see the light of day in the Czech Republic.
Since 2000 when Humanitas Afrika was founded, it has remained focused on the dissemination of information, raising awareness, and building cultural bridges between African residents on the one hand, and the local Czech population on the other.
Needless to underline, education on and about Africa and Africans is critical to the very essence of Humanitas Afrika, which has gone about achieving education through various activities, including documentaries, seminars and public fora that target the broader general public.
Another regular activity is African afternoons. These are sessions at schools during which workshops are conducted for young students on African cuisine, drumming, religion, family structure, languages, etc. The rest are cultural events with African music, dance, art performance, fashion shows and the like, regularly organised for all and sundry.
In addition to these programmes, most of which are monthly or bi-monthly, Humanitas Afrika has also pioneered annual celebrations such as Africa Day and Black History Month in the Czech Republic. The icing on the cake, however, came at the beginning of 2005 when Humanitas Afrika launched one further pioneering feat in the name of an African Resource Centre, which also doubles as a library. It provides credible and very well balanced literature on everything African, and has since proved to be the first port of call for academics, students, travellers, tourists and the curious.
Beyond the provision of literature, it has also become the venue for screening documentaries and discussion fora or seminars. As one newspaper famously described it shortly after it was launched, the African Resource Centre “is more than just an academic addition”.
Until lions learn to write, hunters will always write their history for them. More than anything else, this proverbial saying is what inspires Humanitas Afrika most in everything it has been doing. Obviously the hunters will hardly ever pen a line on the heroism of the lions. It is about time Africa and Africans, at home and in the Diaspora, began to write and sing of their own heroism. That is exactly what Humanitas Afrika has been so zealously trying to achieve in the Czech Republic, despite resource limitations and constant challenges.
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Some of you may remember Peter Finch’s awesome performance in that scene from “Network” that won him the Oscar. This scene has influenced a bevy of imitators one being the JG Wentworth commercials: “It’s my money, and I want it now!”
Many of us are not only looking to marry interracially or interculturally, but also internationally. Consider the article below that I am totally in agreement with from Sheri and Bob Stritof, Marriage Guides at About.com
Every marriage requires commitment, dedication and work. An international/intercultural marriage requires even more attention because of the many obstacles that a couple faces. The obstacles come from family, friends, personal values, expectations, and bureaucratic procedures. Some of the problems these relationships face include:
Differences in Values
Sex Role Expectations
Fear of Abandonment by Family, Friends, Spouse
To overcome these barriers, intercultural couples need to:
Learn about one another’s cultures.
Communicate well in at least one language.
Be open and honest with their families.
Accept that cultural roots go deep and that people don’t change easily or quickly.
Focus on the positives.
Look at what they have in common with one another.
Talk with one another about which traditions they want to carry on as a couple and with their children.
Discuss their expectations in the areas of mealtimes, holidays, finances, sex, chores and roles.
Look at why it is difficult to let go of a tradition or expectation.
It isn’t easy to deal with the legacy that we’ve all grown up with in our ethnic, religious and socio-economic backgrounds. Couples have said that the first five years of this type of marriage are the hardest.
The key to a successful intercultural marriage is to develop understanding and patience.
Washington Post Staff Writer
Thursday, February 25, 2010
So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one “good” black man to come along and sweep them off their feet. Waiting. Talking to girlfriends. Waiting. Going out alone. Waiting. Going to work. Waiting. Waiting for a “good” black man, with the same education level to marry them. Waiting. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them. Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas such as Washington, according to a 2008 population survey by the U.S. Census Bureau. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.
It’s Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman. “Black women are in market failure,” says writer Karyn Langhorne Folan. “The solution is to find a new market for your commodity. And in this case, we are the commodity and the new market is men of other races.” Folan is the author of “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out,” published this month by Karen Hunter, an imprint of Pocket Books. In encouraging black women to date and marry interracially, the book has joined a broadening debate in recent years fueled by the blogosphere, the entertainment industry and comments by prominent African Americans.
Tyler Perry cast a Latin man as the great love interest of black actress Taraji P. Henson in his recent movie, “I Can Do Bad All by Myself”; in “The Princess and the Frog” featuring Disney’s first black princess, the prince’s indeterminate racial origins inspired commentary; and there was the 2006 movie “Something New,” in which characters played by Simon Baker, who is white, and Sanaa Lathan, who is black, fall in love. Whoopi Goldberg has talked about interracial dating on “The View,” saying you date whom you are around. Oprah Winfrey has encouraged black women to explore “what is out there.” While the discussion includes men of all races and ethnicities, the focus is primarily on overcoming taboos against dating white men. By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren’t any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. The writer, mom and Harvard-educated lawyer says that she is just offering a reasonable solution to the shortage of available black men.
“Consider your options,” she says. Expand your horizons. Stop listening to your girlfriends. Forget about the brothers calling you a sellout. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others. “In short,” Folan says, “some black women choose to demonize all white men rather than look objectively at the facts of our modern times, which are these: Some men, whatever their race, are bad for us. And the converse is true as well.
Some men, whatever their race, are good for us.”
Lisa Vazquez agrees emphatically. “Divestment is an imperative of our self-preservation as black women,” says Vazquez, who writes at blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com, one of many blogs opining on the subject. Others include BlackFemaleInterracialMarriage.com and Dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com. “There are some women who believe that racial loyalty should have precedence over self-preservation,” Vazquez says. “Where did that teaching come from? . . . Too many of us claim that we are God’s women, but our mentality reveals that we place racial validation above any and everything.” There’s evidence, both empirical and anecdotal, that an increasing number of black women are playing the entire field.
According to the 2008 population survey, interracial marriages have doubled in the past decade. About 73 percent of black/white marriages are between black men and white women, according to the survey. The decision to marry a white man sometimes brings strife. Lorraine Spencer of Arlington says that despite living happily with the white man she married in 1995, she still gets grief from friends and relatives. Spencer, 44, calls herself pro-black. She has traced her ancestry and is proud of her heritage, she says. And yet, “from my own personal experience, people tend to treat you as though you have lost your right to speak on black issues or you are not taken as seriously because somehow you don’t have the same experience if you have decided to marry transracially,” she says. “I’ve been called a sellout or white-acting, so to speak, or a person who hates black people by co-workers and family.”
Folan says such judgmental attitudes are rooted in “the myth of one voice,” as though all black people think the same, talk the same, want the same thing when, in reality, diversity is great within the race. “Black people are not a monolith, and one voice is a myth, and yet some black folks still seem certain that they know who has ‘stayed black’ and who has ‘sold out,’ ” Folan says. Being perceived by other blacks as a sellout is No. 8 on the list of nine “notions” preventing black women from dating and marrying interracially that Folan outlines and rebuts in her book. Those notions also include: (1) “After slavery, I would never, ever date a white man”; (4) “I don’t find white men attractive”; (5) “White men don’t find black women attractive unless they look like Beyoncé”; and (9) “We’d be too different.”
Folan says she was prompted to write the book two years ago after an opinion piece on interracial marriage she wrote for The Washington Post generated an overwhelming response. “Obviously, it touched a nerve,” she says. “The writer in me said, ‘There is a book in this.’ ” As quiet as it is kept, the scene from the movie “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner” plays out just as strongly in black households as others — but in reverse, Folan says. Many black daughters are told: “Whatever you do, don’t bring home a white boy,” she says. “I think it is partially generational. It is a stronger mantra the older you are. [But] I heard from young women in their twenties whose parents were still having trouble with that.” Folan’s message seems urgent and unapologetic. She is a missionary wiping a window pane so the people she is seeking to help can see things more clearly.
“I have something to say to black women in particular,” she says, sitting in a purple winged-back chair in her living room in Germantown. “I just want to keep encouraging all black women to celebrate themselves. We are beautiful, resilient, strong, capable. We deserve men who will love us, no matter the skin color.”
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